Conversations — Across The Aisle


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Across The Aisle: Public Group Conversation for Healing Our Political Divide

Wednesdays at 5-6:30pm Pacific Time/8-9:30pm Eastern online on Zoom.

Facilitated by John Kinyon and Katrina Vaillancourt

We invite all to actively participate in this group conversation event who are willing to engage in the process we are offering (see The Process below), and you are welcome to be on the Zoom call just listening and witnessing (with your video on or off) without speaking if you choose.

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Please invite anyone who you think might be interested, particularly those who hold political beliefs and perspectives different from you.


The Opportunity
Polarization has had a devastating impact on our families, friendships, community and our nation at large. These are the times that can define us. Will we give into patterns of reacting to our differences with disconnection or will we courageously choose empathy, connection, and cooperation in our shared humanity?

The Purpose
We believe in the promise of democracy and want to create a safe, respectful space for open, honest communication about issues impacting the future of our country and the world: So that we can understand each other and respect and learn from our differences, and work together to create a future of greater possibility and wellbeing for all.

The Process
The process we facilitate is to invite individuals who hold beliefs and perspectives across the political spectrum to speak, one at a time. When a person has finished speaking, we ask the next person to first say back what they heard the previous person say, even when there is strong disagreement, until that person feels heard and understood.

We have developed a structure of 4 questions to support understanding and connection when each person is expressing their perspective:

  1. What is the issue or topic you want to speak about?
  2. What meaning do you give to it?
  3. What emotions are you feeling in your body?
  4. What do you want – personally and universally?
Role Playing
We have added a role play option to the process. For those who would like, you can play the role of yourself and/or the person with a different political view from you and with whom you are having difficulty.
We do our best to model and demonstrate empathic understanding (separate from agreement or disagreement) for what people are saying, and we facilitate the possibility for those who are speaking and listening to do the same.
For information about John Kinyon see
For information about Katrina Vaillancourt see
Financial Support: You can register and attend for free, and we invite you to give a financial contribution if you would like to further support this work.

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For information about Empathy & Mindfulness in Conversation online community and courses and training courses with John, see