Conversations — Across The Aisle

AcrossTheAisle JK Solo

Healing The Divides in Our Communities and Society One Conversation at a Time

Wednesdays at 5-6:30pm Pacific Time/8-9:30pm Eastern on Zoom.

Facilitated by John Kinyon

See registration link below.

One of the main goals of this Across The Aisle group experience is to demonstrate and spread the idea of empathic structure in conversation leading to understanding, connection, healing, wellbeing, cooperation and the emergence of new creative possibilities and solutions. The simple essence of this empathic structure is: taking turns speaking and listening in mindful awareness, focusing on understanding rather than agreement, and dropping down into connection with what we share in common — our human feelings, needs, and wants.

All are invited to participate in the group conversation (see The Process below), and you are also welcome to just listen and witness without speaking if you choose.

Please invite anyone who you think might be interested, particularly those who hold political beliefs and perspectives different from you.


The Opportunity
Polarization has had a devastating impact on our families, friendships, community and our nation at large. These are the times that can define us. Will we give into patterns of reacting to our differences with disconnection or will we courageously choose understanding, connection, and cooperation in our shared humanity?

The Purpose
I believe in the promise of democracy and want to create a safe, respectful space for open, honest communication about issues impacting the future of our country and the world: So that we can understand each other and respect and learn from our differences, and work together to create a future of greater possibility and wellbeing for all.

The Process
The process is for individuals who hold beliefs and perspectives across the political spectrum to speak, one at a time. When a person has finished speaking, we ask the next person who wishes to speak to first say back what they heard the previous person say, even when there is strong disagreement, until that person feels heard and understood.

There is a structure of 4 questions to support clarity of self-expression of one's perspective, as well as understanding and connection:

  1. What is the issue or topic you want to speak about?
  2. What meaning do you give to it?
  3. What emotions are you feeling in your body?
  4. What do you want – personally and universally?


On the last Wednesday of each month I will be asking people attending if I can record the conversations in order to share with the world the power of the experience and the value of empathic communication. My hope is that this will inspire others to participate in the future, learn from watching to apply to their own lives, and to spread and grow the work. I will not record anyone present who does not want to be recorded; and before sharing it out into the world I would ask those in the recording to watch it and give permission that you're ok with it being shared.

You are welcome to attend this event for free, and when you register you'll be given an option to give a financial contribution. Receiving financial support gives me the ability to continue offering this work to the world. You can give what you'd like, including $0. If it's your first time attending, you can give later if you wish, after you've had the experience.

John's work is based in the international work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). For more information about John and the work see,

To register for this event, click HERE

Once you register you'll receive an email with the Zoom link and other information. MAKE SURE TO CHECK YOUR SPAM FOLDER

IF YOU DON'T RECEIVE THE EMAIL WITH THE ZOOM LINK, email about this and we'll send you the link.

If you've already registered but have lost the link, just re-register or email us to get it again. It is the same Zoom link each time.


[Here's a LINK for information about Zoom if you're new to it.]

For information about Empathy & Mindfulness in Conversation online community and courses and training courses with John, see

This Across The Aisle process was co-created and developed by:

John Kinyon, see
Paul Sterling,
Katrina Vaillancourt,