Conflict to Connection in Conversation with Ourselves and Others
12-Week Online Program - Level 2 (Intermediate)
Next program begins Tues Sept 29, 2020, 1-2:30 Pacific Time [Early registration till Sept 18]
A triad model of conversation and consciousness that restores connection and creates new possibility
Learn 6 types of conflict to connection conversations (inner and outer) that build resilience with adversity and strengthen relationship, cooperation, and collaboration.
This Level Two intermediate online live session community practice is for people who have taken my Level One 8-week Foundations of Mindfulness in Conversation, or who have taken live trainings in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and have been actively practicing for at least 6 months.
You’ll Gain The Ability To:
- Recover more quickly in the moment of a difficult interaction and remain more centered
- Deepen presence and connection in conversations and relationships
- Use language more skillfully in your interactions with people
- Cope better with stress, overwhelm, and inner conflict about the past and future
- Transform anger and frustration into empathic understanding for self and other
- Feel more confidence and skill having difficult conversations
- Bring your listening and empathy skills to a new level
- Express yourself more authentically and courageously, and with compassion
- Heal emotional hurt and pain between you and others, and experience reconciliation and forgiveness
- Develop empathic community of support and learning at this higher level
- Work together better to discover creative ideas and solutions
The Level Two program offers learning and practice with the foundation applications of the OFNR mindfulness and language components, the 6 types of conversation maps applied to situations of disconnection or conflict (inner and outer), and tapping into the positive and transformative Power of Conflict. Level Two builds on the mindfulness and language practices from Level One, deepening and strengthening the ability to maintain and return to awareness, compassionate presence, and conscious choice in relation to challenging situations. The program includes weekly 1.5-hour live group sessions on the Zoom video platform, ongoing self-practice and practice with people in the program, and access to written, audio, and video learning materials and resources, including books, handouts, and recordings of the live sessions.
Format: 12 consecutive Wednesdays
Begins: Tuesday September 29, 2020
Ends: Tuesday December 15, 2020
Weekly Live Group Session Duration: 90 minutes
Start Time: 1:00 pm PT [California] (convert to my time zone)
*EARLY REGISTRATION DISCOUNT: Through Friday, Sept 4
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What are Conflict to Connection Conversations?
In this 12-week Level Two intermediate online program, you will learn foundation OFNR-based structures and 6 types of conversation maps (inner and outer) for returning to empathic connection from disconnection and conflict, in the context of building empathic community of learning, connection, and support in your life. The skills and structures help you return to connection and compassion when you’re triggered into the brain’s Fight-Flight-Freeze, stress response system. At the core of this level of learning is a Triad Model of Conversation & Consciousness that integrates and deepens dual and non-dual awareness practice and relationship with the unconscious (e.g. subconscious and superconscious dimensions of mind, inner parts). The conversation structures come out of the Mediate Your Life body of work and are associated with an empirically-supported model of emotion circuits and networks in the brain developed by affective neuroscience researcher Jaak Panksepp. In conjunction with the emotion networks there are differentiating patterns of thinking and evaluating related to each conversation type. Also integrated with this approach is Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems (IFS) work.
Foundation Applications of OFNR
- Self-Connection Practice, an OFNR mindfulness practice and coping with challenge moments
- Intensity Practice, for practicing to respond with self-connection and compassion in intensity of difficulty and challenge
- Elements of Empathy, for speaking and listening in empathic conversation
- Need Behind the No, for responding empathically and compassionately when hearing a "no" from someone or when we are wanting to say "no"
6 Conflict to Connection Conversation Maps:
- Preparing to Respond with Compassion, to prepare yourself to respond with empathy and compassion toward someone when you are feeling anger or frustration and having negative judgments about them.
- Recovering with Resilience, to recover and debrief with yourself after something has happened and you feel fear, anxiety, stress, about known or anticipated negative judgments towards you, loss of connection, or other negative consequences.
- Self-Compassion Conversation, for when you feel anger towards yourself and have thoughts of self-judgment about a past choice, as well as perhaps feelings of fear, shame or guilt, and a disruption to your experience of play and joy.
- Internal Mediation Conversation, for when you are feeling fear, anxiety, stress about making a decision or moving in a particular direction in the future, and have thoughts of possible negative consequences and perhaps feelings of confusion, stuckness, indecision, depressed, and disruption to your experience of discovery and enthusiasm.
- Courageous Conversation, for talking to someone when you are feeling trepidation or fear because there is disagreement in beliefs, lack of acceptance, and perhaps reactions of anger. Including:
- Three Types of Agreements - main, supporting, and restoring
- Reconciliation, Healing & Forgiveness Conversation, for talking to someone when there are feelings of emotional hurt and pain in you and/or another person, and perhaps judgments of blame and feelings of anger.
Philosophy of Money
The registration pricing is what I (John) would like to receive to support this work and my sustainability. However, because I see this work being for the greater good of humanity and all people and communities, and because I want to support a monetary system based in giving and receiving from the desire to contribute to one another's well being, you can email me and request to give a different amount if what I am asking does not work for you. Email: email@example.com. Thank you for wanting to be part of this work in the world!
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