"The conflicts we face are a portal to what we seek — and the '3rd Chair' is how we get there, together." — John Kinyon
Funding Mediate Your Life's Contribution to the World
I’m looking for people who would like to give larger amounts of financial contribution to help Mediate Your Life reach greater numbers of people and bring the idea of the 3rd Chair into mainstream culture.
If you or someone you know might be interested in financially supporting this mission, let me know and we can have a conversation.
What Has Been Built
The Mediate Your Life work is proven over decades and poised to scale. We have accomplished:
- Mediation process and coaching maps: The development of a highly effective and reliable approach to mediation and conflict coaching
- Training programs: Two decades of international training programs in mediation, conflict coaching, and personal development reaching many thousands of people in life changing ways, in the U.S., Europe (Poland, Italy, Spain, the Netherlands), and Asia (South Korea, China, Taiwan)
- Certification: A growing body of MYL certified practitioners worldwide
- Mentoring: MYL trainer mentorship and apprenticeship
- MYL podcast, books, and app
- A universal 3Chair practice that can be shared without formal training — designed for organic spread through individuals in their communities and organizations
What Your Contribution Will Support
- 3Chair model reaching mainstream awareness through media, presentations, and high-influence individuals
- Increasing numbers of people doing the professional and personal development international training programs
- Growing the cohort of MYL certified trainers that I mentor around the world, and support them to mentor others, creating an exponentially expanding circle of people who embody and share and co-evolve the work
- Making the training financially accessible to all who want it worldwide regardless of resources
- Coordinating a global community of practice and peer support
- Collaborating with other resonant organizations and bodies of work
- Updating and expanding the MYL app and other learning resources and materials
A Vision That Has Guided 25 Years
Twenty years ago, a vision came to me that has never left:
I am looking out over a vast, open-air courtyard filled with people in groups of three practicing with conflict situations, with deep empathy and finding solutions together in the power of the three chairs. The whole courtyard is full of joy, connection, and aliveness.
This vision to me represents something I believe is genuinely possible: a critical mass of humanity learning how to meet even the most difficult conflicts from what I call the "3rd Chair" — the seat of awareness and the presence of empathy, compassion, collaboration, and a calm, regulated nervous system with the two sides of conflicting polarities that creates the relationships, life, and world we want.
What is the 3Chair Model?
The 3Chair model is the relationship between three perspectives:
Chair 1: The "Me" perspective of a person's conflict reaction - fight, flight, freeze, fawn nervous system stress response.
Chair 2: The "You" perspective of the other person in the conflict situation, or to another part of oneself.
Chair 3: The "We" perspective of higher wisdom, love, and guidance in relation to the two chairs/sides in conflict.
From the 3rd Chair, what seems irreconcilable opens into new possibility. Opposing differences are held in a wider embrace of connection, revealing emergent solutions.
Now is the Time
After 25 years of development and evolution, Mediate Your Life has become a refined and proven model, system, and methodology. A growing network of practitioners spans the globe. This is not a project seeking funding to discover something new. It is a mature body of work ready to scale.
I believe we are approaching a tipping point, where enough people in the world can together catalyze a cultural shift toward healthy, sustainable, and collaborative ways of living on the planet. Mindfulness and yoga once seemed like niche, esoteric practices. Today they are mainstream. This can happen with mediating the conflicts our lives and our world from 3rd Chair awareness.
Supporting the Mission and Vision
At times, as I look out at what's happening in the world, this vision seems impossible. Yet a deeper knowing in me feels the reality of it, and a desire to give everything to help us get there.
If you would like to help me reach and train large numbers of people and bring 3rd Chair awareness into mainstream awareness, let me know.
Thank you!
— John Kinyon, Founder