Posts by John Kinyon
The Heart of MYL: The 3Chair Model
Mediate Your Life (MYL) began in 2002 as a co-creation with my dear colleague Ike Lasater in the work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). For me, MYL arose from a deep desire for connection and wellbeing in the midst of intense conflict and shattering loss in my childhood, and later, in a profound existential grappling with…
Read MoreThe Neuroscience of Emotion Circuits and Navigating Territories of Conflict with Sarah Peyton, Part 2
In Part 2 of my conversation with Sarah Peyton, we dive deeper into the neuroscience of conflict and emotional healing, bridging the Mediate Your Life framework with the groundbreaking research of affective neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp. Together, we…
Read MoreA “Unividual” Perspective on Politics and Polarization with Philosopher Tim Freke
In this compelling episode of the Mediate Your Life Podcast, John’s guest is pioneering philosopher Tim Freke. Tim is the author of 35 books that have been translated into 15 languages. The conversation explores how Tim’s groundbreaking,…
Read MoreThe Mystery and Power of the Triangle to Transform Conflict
A Warm and Welcoming Hello to You All, As we navigate the complex challenges of our time, I have been thinking a lot about the structure of the triangle. In this newsletter, I talk about the layers of meaning in this symbol and how it relates to mediating our lives and applying this understanding in…
Read MoreNavigating Self-Care and Activism with Palestinian Activist Ashira Darwish
In this episode of the Mediate Your Life podcast, John Kinyon engages in a deeply moving conversation with Ashira Darwish, a Palestinian activist, journalist, and founder of Catharsis Holistic Healing. She was also featured in the powerful…
Read MoreCrossing Political Differences and Divides with Cory Tyler
In this episode of the Mediate Your Life podcast, John Kinyon engages in a heartfelt conversation with Cory Tyler, exploring the transformative potential of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in our politically divided world. Cory, drawing from his…
Read MoreEmbracing Freedom and Love in Intimate Relationship, with Nicole Gibson, Part 2
In this episode of the Mediate Your Life podcast, John continues his moving conversation with Nicole Gibson, founder of Love Out Loud. In this part of the conversation they use the Mediate Your Life map of internal mediation to delve into Nicole’s…
Read MoreStanding for Justice and Empathy with Humility
In the delicate balance between standing for justice and promoting empathy, I struggle with how to hold these two together simultaneously. At the heart of this challenge for me is the recognition that when calling out (or “calling in,” as it’s now said) what I see as an injustice, it’s easy to fall into promoting…
Read MoreOur Way Out of Hell
Have you ever prioritized your own needs over someone else’s? Have you noticed there was a cost to doing so? I have been pondering over this as I witness events in Israel-Palestine. I desire to get to the core of what is happening and extract the needed lessons for myself and civilization. Join me in…
Read MoreNo Bad Parts – In the Violence of Our World
No Bad Parts is the title of one of Richard Schwartz’s latest books on Internal Family Systems (IFS), an approach to trauma healing. In the IFS model, inner “parts” of our psyche take on more extreme beliefs and roles in order to keep our system safe, particularly to protect other hurt parts that have been…
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